I wonder …

I always wonder how people would react to me saying “Noah and I have been trying for 7 years for a baby and sadly that hasn’t worked out” when someone asks why we don’t have kids or ask if we want kids or say “you wouldn’t understand you don’t have kids”.

I am talking about someone we may know but not overly well. Not a total stranger of course but maybe a friend that you haven’t seen in years, a friend of a friend or a friend of a family member.

I am the type of person that may just laugh lightly or say something generic in response. I know that people don’t realize their innocent question/comment may be hurtful or may not be appropriate

Sorry for the rambly post but I have been thinking about this lately as more people bring it up.

6 thoughts on “I wonder …

  1. Wendy says:

    oh I hate that some people are so insensitive and I know you are such an amazing young women and have helped so many others by doing your blog and so much more, but I hurt for you.

  2. When people find out that I have been married for almost 8 years they always ask about kids. That question used to make me cry but now I smile and say that I was diagnosed with pcos BUT I am believing that God is bigger than pcos and soon I will be a mommy. It answers their question, demonstrates my faith and even opens the door to talk about God if they want too. Win, win 🙂

  3. I HATE it every time someone says “you wouldn’t understand you don’t have kids”. I think they should be smacked. (of course by like, an unseen hand, so I can snicker and they will just be confused 😉 )

  4. I did this not so long ago because I was just so tired of saying things I didn’t mean like ‘we’re taking our time etc.’ I ssid it kindly but the person immediately saw how insensitive they had been and I think it dawned on them that it’s not a wise question to ask!

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